AP’s first usage guidelines on ‘husband, wife’
It would be extremely rare in a gay marriage for a man to be called a “wife” or a woman to be called a “husband,” except perhaps humorously. We should mention here that the meanings of “husband” and “wife” have changed dramatically over the years. We believe that all couples getting married should be able to get married in their way with a ceremony that represents who they are and what is important to them. One large part of that is the ceremony language.
Partner? Spouse? Wife or Husband? – Live Engayged
So, I was working on a tax return for a gay couple (I'm an accountant). Now, assume that they were married and it was two men, would they say "This is my husband, Frank" and "this is my husband, Joe" or what are the spouses called? Same thing for a lesbian couple are they both "wife"?. Search Everywhere Threads This forum This thread. Search titles only. 
Terminology
I really don’t have many personal referents to go on – the only lesbian married couple I’ve known (now dissolved: () referred to each other as “partners” – the safe way out (you should excuse the pun), since they were business partners as well in their tiny (-minded) town. I support the gay desire for legal marriage, but this reversal of gender seems offensive to common sense. A: The language and the law are changing concerning marriage, and some people are offended by the changes.
What married gay/lesbian partners call each other
Gay and lesbian couples who are married in the nine states where it’s legal, plus the District of Columbia, are, in fact, entitled to call themselves “husband” or “wife.” It is not a subjective notation, but a descriptive one. And it’s right that the Associated Press says so. Has America ever needed a media defender more than now?. In this particular thread one could easily assume that the one with the husband was a gay man — but she turned out to be a bi woman. Do you find it confusing, or a natural extension? Word to describe gay people who are in a relationship with
In this new world where gay people are legally married, as David Vargo and I were in , there’s a terminology issue that has its own new battlefield: what is the spouse to be called? Surely the correct answer is “husband” or “wife,” depending on the gender, but that sounds so historically foreign, often even to gay couples themselves, that it seems awkward. The problem is that gay. This is pretty timely, as the topic revolves around marriage and today, January 26th, is National Spouses Day! I have many thoughts and opinions that can go both ways on this topic! How to Make Your LGBTQ+ Wedding Ceremony Language
You are talking about couples who may be identified as lesbian, bisexual, gay, and/or transgender. Some who identify as bisexual or transgender may also have hidden identities and appreciate LGBTQ cultural competence but would excluded from the term ‘same-sex wedding’ if they are an opposite-sex identified couple. . 
The Grammarphobia Blog
The topic of this week is in regards to marriage and the terminology of an LGBTQ+ couple. The direct statement that prompted this post is: “My gay marriage deserves the same respect as any other marriage for example, when people refer to one's spouse as your partner instead of your wife/husband.”. .
Gay marriage question
4 You can say they are a gay couple or they are gay lovers to refer to two gays in love with each other and not necessarily married. .