An Open Secret
So, according to American Heritage and Merriam-ster’s, two men married to each other would both be “husbands,” and two women married to each other would both be “wives.” Of course a husband or a wife could be referred to in a lot of other ways. Sometimes a woman may have been in a heterosexual relationship for years and yet feel something is somehow "off;" and she may find herself asking, "Is my husband gay? If a husband is gay, it can devastate not only the relationship but the straight wife as well.
Gay Marriage Quandary
So, I was working on a tax return for a gay couple (I'm an accountant). Now, assume that they were married and it was two men, would they say "This is my husband, Frank" and "this is my husband, Joe" or what are the spouses called? Same thing for a lesbian couple are they both "wife"?. I support the gay desire for legal marriage, but this reversal of gender seems offensive to common sense. A: The language and the law are changing concerning marriage, and some people are offended by the changes. A Guide for Gay Men on Both Open and Monogamous Marriage
We are husbands to each other because we are two gay men in love, who are committed to each other for life. We are legal husbands because, aside from all the legal and financial benefits that come with the paperwork, there is something special about having our union officially acknowledged and respected in the place where we live. In , Kinsey observed that long-term homosexual relationships were notably few. Now, more than fifty years later, long-term gay male relationships may be more common, but the fact remains that they are typically not monogamous. 
Word to describe gay people who are in a relationship with
Joseph Nicolosi examines the dynamics of gay male couples, exploring the prevalence of open relationships, non-monogamy, and the cultural attitudes toward fidelity. Posted August 11, Our conversation is below.
Are You The Husband Or The Wife?
In some relationships one person of the couple identifies as the wife and the other as the husband. Other relationships have partners who identify as dominant and submissive, masculine and feminine, top and bottom, or male and female. As gay people, we want to be seen as two people who love each other and are in a committed relationship. We were invited by the professor of the class who is on the board of the organization where I work. David and I were there to talk about our story and how we fell in love. Being a Husband to One’s Husband Makes for a Great Partnership
Is my husband gay? is an unthinkable question to many wives, and some husbands do turn out to be gay. Learn the signs of a gay husband. . 
What Straight Husbands Can Learn From Gay Husbands
Assuming they're not legally married, gay and Lesbian couples usually refer to each other as "my partner" when speaking to others. If they are married, variations on husband and wife are used. Sometimes a gay relationship will have two husbands, two wives, or a husband and a wife. If the relationship is less formal, boyfriend and girlfriend are often used. I have no citation for this; it's. .
Gay marriage question
In the book, the reader follows two married couples: Tomas and Larry, representing a harmonious open marriage, and Ethan and Jake, representing a fulfilling monogamous marriage. .